So if you’ve been a long time reader, you may have noticed that until recently, there’s been mostly a dry spell of my original content. Since I’m not a paid site (although I do appreciate any support you can give me by shopping via my links), I can only update when I have time. With some new work in the last year, the schedule was often busy.
But another side of things is just the general state of married life. While I’ve only been married relatively recently, our relationship go back over a decade. And with that, I’m discovering that many of the stereotypes you hear about married life (hetero and otherwise) have quite a bit of truth to them.
The title quote to this post above is a reference to Margaret Cho. In one of her stand up routines, she mentions she was dating a guy long term, and discussing the state of their sex life: “Now that the milk is free, we’ve both become lactose intolerant.”
Also reminiscent is a line from Madeline Khan in the classic movie Clue: “Life after death is as improbable as sex after marriage.”
I suppose for many gay couples who are open, it’d be different. However, we do consider ourselves monogamous. Even with my meets, there is no oral or anal sex, because I do honestly want to save that for my husband. With that, however, comes a few factors that I’m sure other long term couples can relate to. After a while, you know each other’s habits, regular life takes over, and even within the kink community, there’s only so much novelty out there before you start repeating yourself. So sex becomes less of an urgent thing, no pun intended.
This is not to say that I don’t love my husband, or that our relationship is in jeopardy in any way. We actually still tremendously enjoy each other’s company and being together. But sex is less of a priority after all this time together, and quality time takes more significance. And when we do have sex, many of our scenes appear very similar to past scenes, so it doesn’t make a lot of sense to document it. With that, comes a bit less original content for this blog. Well, it comes in spurts. (Again, no pun intended.) But I guess that’s a part of what married life is all about.