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More possible delays

More possible delays

So I have much of this week off, and I hope to be getting a new computer.  My current one is getting very, very slow, and it’s to a point where even just opening a webpage or a folder can take minutes on a bad day.  (It’s even taken up to 10 to 15 minutes just to open up a folder.)

But with this update may come some downtime.  I will try to keep up posts, but if the site does go quiet, please be patient. I will return.  Keep checking my twitter, which I can update by phone or iPad, for my current status.  Plus, I sometimes post hot pics, too.  🙂

TFG Meets Metalbond!

TFG Meets Metalbond!

Thank goodness for the Recon iPhone app.  While on a recent visit to Orange County, I checked it at random, just for fun.  Imagine my surprise when I saw Metalbond, author of the amazing blog of the same name, less than a mile from me.  My jaw nearly dropped.  Since he lives in New York, this was pretty unexpected.  Since we have talked before, and he’s always been a great supporter of my blog, I decided to drop him a message.  Long story short, he was in the area for a work event, but we were able to work out having dinner a few hours later.


I must say, this is one of those unexpected perks I get by doing this blog.  When I had walked out of the house that morning, never had I dreamed I’d be chatting with one of the top fetish bloggers in the community later that night.  He was a real delight to talk with.  We were able to discuss memorable posts, what it’s like to blog, who we’ve met (and would like to), and just generally find out more about each other.  No, a scene didn’t happen… he was already quite scheduled in that area, and I definitely respected his plans.  And to a certain degree I actually enjoy just being social with kinky guys and finding out more about the person behind the blog, profile, or social media, especially the first time I meet someone.  He was a very nice guy, and I know I’d definitely like to talk with him more.  In a way, you can experience a bit of this by listening to this interview he did on the No Safe Word podcast (a show worth listening to in general) some time ago.

One question that came up was who we’ve each met with, and it made me realize I’ve met more established kink figures than I ever thought I would.  Atlloki (scroll down the post), TheUAJock (you’ll be hearing more from him at the end of this month), James T. Medak (interview here and here, but we have meet in person), SaltLakeFootman (still have yet to post about that one… heh heh heh), and I even got tied up by Kevin from Bondage Jeopardy.  I still have a few more on my list… I’m looking at you, tallglassofoj and thesneakerboy.  One day, I promise.  And Christian Wilde, even though we’ve never talked, you’re a fantasy for me.  There are countless others, some well known in the community, and some well known to me because we’ve talked for a long time.  You know who you are.

Anyway, I have to thank Metalbond for taking time out of his schedule to meet with me.  It was a really unexpected treat!


Reader Response:  Keeping it up; New Galleries

Reader Response: Keeping it up; New Galleries

I got a very kind reply to my earlier post about staying hard during a scene (and my occasional difficulty in doing so).  With his permission (and name redacted), I’m sharing it below:

You are a great kink muse. It is so refreshing to have thoughtful commentary on all of this crazy stuff we do instead of just a bunch of pictures only. Thank you!

To the question at hand, I think it is partially a function of age and stress. Wait till your in your mid fifties, it is even more challenging! I have had the same problem since when bound or being flogged or whipped I will lose my erection after a bit and this causes my play partner to think I am not enjoying myself or It confuses him as to what he should be doing to keep me aroused. Like you, regardless of the state of my cock, I continue to enjoy myself even if the most apparent sign is missing. Aside from the issues with my partner, I have come to terms with it.

I like long bondage sessions and fairly intense floggings and whippings as well as heavy domination. While this is the subject of all of my jerk off fantasies and I still do so at least twice a day, when in a scene something else occurs that transcends normal sexual arousal. I go into deep subspace, I am completely relaxed and lose all track of time. My last two play sessions were 4 hours each and they felt like an hour. When I am so relaxed, I am not even aware of whether I am hard most of the time and I am usually blindfolded. It does not seem to matter to me, even though we all do these things for sexual pleasure. But I am finding the pleasure transcends an erection and in some ways is so much deeper and more primal. I would have never thought I would evolve to this.

I really believe that I feel so good bound, beaten and dominated that it takes me some where else and in such a state of deep relaxation and contentment that I am fulfilled. I tell my partner it is like a massage with a vengeance.

Like you I would rather be hard all the time to avoid confusing my partner as I don’t think he really can understand where he is talking me or that I am getting pleasure. He is a top and his play priority is to be hard and orgasm while he plays with me. I am also finding pleasure in servicing him without considering my own arousal. I just keep telling him I am enjoying myself or I would not come back for more.

I do find that when I top I am able to maintain an erection because it is part of the goal of topping and playing with the sub, my sexual pleasure. When I am the sub I seem to be moving deeper into submission beyond needing a constant erection.

I am glad you brought the subject up because I have thought about it often and this gave me the opportunity to articulate my feelings.

I thought this was a very well written, thoughtful reply, and it made me glad to realize I’m not the only one going through issues like this.  If you have more to say about this or other topics, feel free to contact me!



On a very different note, I thought it would be nice to have a gallery here on the blog that highlights some of my own personal Dom work with subs.  I’ve had the pleasure of working with many hot guys besides my husband.  Please enjoy it here, or you can find it in the menu under About TFG > TFG’s subs.

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A preview of my new page of my Dom work.

Since I was at it, I also updated a couple of new pics of myself to my own gallery, including a preview of a post to cum.  Find it here.

Lastly, I don’t have this done yet, but I’m working on a page that shows the gear we own:  gags, restraints, toys, and lycra.  That one might take a while to put together, though.  We have so much gear, even we don’t know them all!

TFG Thoughts:  Upcoming Projects

TFG Thoughts: Upcoming Projects

So first off, I got these pics sent to me from TheUAJock, that I thought you’s all enjoy.  See, this is another reason to follow my twitter.  I have over 500 followers, which is pretty awesome!  I feel I beat the “rule of 2” that I’ve personally noticed… that most twitter followers don’t seem to generally have more than twice the number of people they follow themselves.  Since I’m only following just over 150 (and tbh, many of them aren’t very active), I feel I’ve done pretty well for myself.

So what am I working on for the future?  Well, I’ve asked a couple of people to do some interviews for me.  Although they’re being a bit slow to respond *cough, cough*, but if/when they do get around to it, I’ll be happy to post.

Also, I’m going to be working on two new pages.  One will be a compilation of all my gear.  My husband and I have aquired so much gear over the years, even we practically don’t know all that we have.  So it’ll be a good excuse to go back through all we have.

Secondly, over the years, I’ve had the pleasure to work and abuse (willingly, of course) quite a few subs, and I think I should create a page of highlights of my Dom work.  Both in person and cyber.

I have a lot of both, so it may take a while.  But it’ll be fun to work on!

Other personal news… I hope to be taking a trip up to San Fransisco at the beginning of April.  My time there is short and limited, but I hope to meet a few people.  And possibly make a very large, long desired purchase.

Lastly, a guy I’ve been chatting with for years in New York may be making a big move out to Los Angeles.  And a meet with him is long overdue.  He’s very into gags and tighty-whitey underwear.  Fortunately, I can accommodate him in both.  So hopefully there’ll be some good times ahead!  UPDATE:  Sadly, I just found out he won’t be moving after all.  Dang it.

Yes, we’re back!

Yes, we’re back!

Yeah, the site’s been “tied up” a bit lately.  Although for once, not in a good way.  The problem seemed to be more with the web host than the blog itself.  As you can see, I had been posting all along, but the host wasn’t updating them.

Because most of you have so much to catch up on, I won’t post anything new for the rest of the month, and I’ll begin again in March.  I probably will set up a few tumblr posts in the meantime, just for fun.

Hopefully things will continue to be okay for a while.  If you do catch any problems, let me know.  Remember, you can follow my twitter for updates.  And lastly, a big thanks to @tallglassofoj for his help in getting the site functional again.  I know next to nothing about web hosting, and without his help, I don’t know if I would have had the technical skills to get the site running again.

In the meantime, please go back and visit all the posts that you missed!

If you need to purchase new gear…

If you need to purchase new gear…

…please don’t forget to show your support and do it via the links on my blog.  You can visit my shopping page, or click the ads on the right sidebar.

I do a lot of work for this blog daily, and I’ve kept it all for free since 2005.  All I ask is that if you find yourself about buy any gear online, visit my links.  They are vendors I have used myself and can vouch for.


New Year, New News

New Year, New News

Blog Update

So quite a few things to update you on!  First off, the rather obvious new look to the blog.  All that’s really changed is the color scheme and header pics in the slider at the top.  But I felt it was time for a change.  There’s one more color scheme available, but at the rate I’m going, you’ll have to wait until 2016 to see that one.  After that, I’ll either return to yellow or have a totally new look altogether.

Wedding Bells

In other news, my BF has finally allowed me to say something here… we’re married!  To be honest, we’ve been married.  But due to privacy issues (more him that me, but me too), we didn’t want to be public with it here at the time.  But by now, enough time has passed by.  So I can now openly refer to him as my husband.  Remember, I don’t talk about him much here as he is very, very particular about his privacy for both work and personal reasons.  But we are, and have been, very happy together.

I’m sure I’ll be talking about our marriage more as time goes on.  I was anxious to say something about it because I feel it’s important to know that two kinky guys can get married, too.  I know others have, but as a whole, it’s generally not something you hear about too often.  Also, most kinky marriages tend to be “open” to a certain degree.  I don’t really consider ours open.  Yes, I can meet up with others for photoshoots, but I don’t engage with any explicit sex acts.

If you do have questions about our marriage, please feel free to ask!  I know we stay private about many things, but if the question is too personal, I won’t be offended, nor would my husband… curiosity is a natural thing.  I just ask you to be understanding if I can’t answer it.  But it never hurts to ask in the first place.

Seeking Suspension Play Mentor

Another reason I’ve announced this is that my husband (who is pretty much the ropework you see when I’m the model) is getting very interested in learning about suspension, and how to do it safely.  We do have a bondage bed from Mr. S, and we do have crossbeams over the top that, collectively, should be able to support me.  So if there is anyone in the Los Angeles area who’d be willing to meet up with us in person and give some instruction, please contact me.  He’s even willing to pay for the lesson is necessary.  Obviously, we’d be taking pics of anything that comes out of it.

San Francisco Travels

Also, if you’re in the San Francisco area, I’ll be up there Tuesday and Wednesday this week.  I can’t promise I’d have the time to meet up (socially or kinky), as I’m already making some plans.  But you never know!  So contact me and say hi.  If you’re a young twink into feet and looking to slave, maybe I’ll shift my priorities around…



Blog Find:  Gay Breath Control

Blog Find: Gay Breath Control

So I have to confess… I, personally, am not into breath control.  That being said, this blog is still pretty hot.  The twink slave is cute, and the bondage is good.  He doesn’t show off his feet enough for me, but it’s becoming more common.  Here’s a few pics I’ve found on their blog.  Hope you enjoy.  I’ve added it to my blogroll, but you can visit it directly here.

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FetLife, possible interruptions

So I thought I should bring up the fact that I now finally have a FetLife profile.  As hard as it may be to believe, I didn’t have one before.

To be honest, the main reason I didn’t have one is that I didn’t really feel I needed one more social network to keep up with.  At the same time, there are a few people I know who are more active there, and it’s the easiest way to get a hold of them.  If you are one of those people, feel free to add me.  I currently have, like, 4 friends and a pretty empty profile, and I’m fine with that.  I intend to only friend people that I already know from other sources, or have emailed me before.  If you don’t fit into those categories, please don’t take it personal if I deny you.

Also, I am taking on a new job that begins soon.  I’m not sure if this will interrupt any future blog postings.  I have some set up for the rest of this week and the next few weekends.  However, if I am still busy with this new job after that, the blog will temporarily take a back seat until I get settled in.