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TFG Thoughts:  Getting Called Daddy

TFG Thoughts: Getting Called Daddy

So I’ve always been a guy into twinks, even when I was younger myself.  My interests haven’t changed, but obviously I’ve gotten older.  And believe it or not, but I do not lie about my age.  As I write this now, I am 46.  I suppose it’s a bit easier for me to admit my real age, because when people meet me in person, I’m often mistaken for much, much younger (typically mid or late 30s).  Not sure how long that’s going to last, but I’m certainly not going to argue it while it does, lol.

To prove it, these are all pics of me taken about two months ago as I write this.  I think many of you would probably agree that it’s not necessarily the body your would imagine for a 46 year old, but there it is.  Not saying I’m a gym rat or super fit, but not the typical “dad bod” either.  Not that either of those are bad things, by the way!

Nevertheless, I’ve had quite a few of my younger slaves recently address me as “Daddy”.  In a way, it’s caught me a bit off guard, because I haven’t been called that before, not even in my cyber scenes, nor have I asked for it.  Though on reflection, it shouldn’t be much of a surprise… generally, if most younger subs are willing to meet a person in my age range, they do have a bit of an age play or son/daddy fantasy.

I can imagine some guys would take offense to it, especially if said without being asked.  But I have to confess, at least for me, it was a bit of a thrill to hear it.  While I don’t feel like the typical “Daddy” image, I do find the designation quite hot.  It means I’m a bit of a mentor, a role model, and a disciplinarian.  And if a hot son is willing to please Daddy, and be punished sometimes, I’m all for it.  But in the end, a Daddy must take care of his son.

On a recent scene with a 19 yo who called me Daddy nearly right away, he told me later at the end of the scene that not only was it one of the first times he had been hard for 3 hours straight, but that I was a good mix of Dominant and affectionate.  I think that’s a pretty accurate call, and a fair summation of what a good Daddy should be as well.  I was actually quite flattered.  While I still enjoy being called Sir or Master, I can now wear Daddy with pride.

Cyber improved my verbal

Cyber improved my verbal

So as many of you know, I do often enjoy engaging in cyber play.  I imagine much of the active kink community may generally look down upon this, assuming a real life experience is superior.  To a certain degree, I do agree, and I have found that many cyber play sessions do ultimately die off for just that reason… eventually, a guy wants a real life experience.  And I can’t really blame them.  Ultimately, a real life experience is the ideal situation.

But there are many cases where that’s not just possible, or maybe a guy actually prefers cyber.  It works well for me, because it allows me to “play” while maintaining my current real life relationship.

Recently, however, I’m come to realize an interesting–and quite obvious–side effect.  It’s made my verbal play stronger. 

Many guys are very into verbal humiliation:  name calling, being told they’re inferior, weak, useless, etc.  But like anything else, it’s a skill that can be built over time and practice.  And when you come to think of it, cyber play is essentially all verbal. 

I’m often surprised at how many guys write and tell me how much they enjoy reading my cyber scenes.  And I think it’s because I have become quite good at the verbal play.  So even if you do prefer a real life scene, give cyber a try, and see if it helps you in this regard.

Now see this stinky foot, slave?

Lick it.

Get your tongue out as I wipe my sole against it.  It want it wet.  You hear me?

Now moan.  And drool.

Kiss it. 

And thank me for the privilege while it’s pressed against your faggot lips.

Your dick is hard?  That’s what I thought, bitch.

TFG Thoughts:  Kissing

TFG Thoughts: Kissing

I’m not sure if I’m unusual or not, but when I Dom, I really enjoy kissing.  It’s even listed on my Recon profile.  That said, I always check with the sub to see if it’s okay with them.  And maybe surprisingly, about 2/3 of the time, they’d rather not.

Part of me does find it a bit ironic that one would be willing to strip, be tied, gagged, teased, and perhaps edged… but kissing is drawing a line.  But after some thought, it does make some sense.  Kissing is a different sort of intimacy, often implying more of a romantic connection.  While the sub may only be looking for the immediate experience.

There’s nothing wrong with that, but it does make me wonder how often other Doms want to kiss.  I seem to get a sense not all that many.  But the few subs I have met that enjoy kissing during a scene really enjoy kissing during a scene.  A few even need it as an integral part of a scene, perhaps to put them in a safe space.  To be given assurance that while, yes, I have you tied up and at my mercy, I’m going to take care of you.  And to me, that makes it even hotter.

It may not be for everyone, but if you allow it, it may make a scene even sexier.  Assuming all parties consent, give it a try!

The cyber posts seem to be doing well!

The cyber posts seem to be doing well!

I must say, I’m quite surprised at how popular my Wednesday cyber posts have been.  I now have quite an army of cyber slaves, all willing, able, and begging to do my bidding.  Seems I’ve really tapped into something here.  I even now have multiple straight guys doing my bidding!

Honestly, I’m very flattered so many of you have told me that you find those posts hot.  I do as well, of course (or else I wouldn’t do it).  But it really seems to have resonated with a large number of you, even those of you who are just reading about it passively–and that’s also been a surprise for me.  In a way, I now have more cyber slaves than I can keep track.  I do enjoy tormenting and abusing all of them, but unfortunately I can’t really abuse all of them full time, so it goes in stages.  Generally, the same goes for many of the cyber slaves themselves, so it typically works out.

I will note that while I wasn’t initially sure, I believe I’ll be having cyber slave content for some time to come.  And I’m thrilled so many of you are enjoying it.

To celebrate, here’s a few of my fav cyber slave pics.

First, PAW_ss, one of my straight slaves.  He enjoys a bit of gunge play, so I made him cram a Twinkie into his face and mouth.  And once while he was traveling, I made him wrap up his head in toilet paper… which I then made him put inside a toilet and flush.  And those piss soaked underwear at the end?  He had to then wear those over his head.

Wouldn’t be complete without LL_slavej, the Lowest of the Low.  He’s been my most dedicated faggot, and knows how he should be treated.

SockBitchSlave, a true worthless fag.  Love putting his mouth to use.  And getting it trained to suck cock.

Brett, one of my very first cyber slaves.  Before it was even called that, in fact.  The pics from the session below lasted 3 hours, and he was hard the entire time.  In the last pic, he had to bury his face in a shoe, have another shoe on his crotch, stick a finger up his hole, and then spank himself, and thank me each time.  Oh, and he said the entire room stank of his rancid feet.

And this is just scratching the surface, there’s so many more!  Be sure to check out my cyber tag to see them all.

 

Kinkmen.com Review:  Tyler Rush, Bank Manager Abducted

Kinkmen.com Review: Tyler Rush, Bank Manager Abducted

So not too long ago, my husband got himself a subscription to Kinkmen.com, and he kindly downloaded a few videos that would interest me.  One of them features a very hot guy I’ve liked, Tyler Rush/Pup Amp.  You may know him and Bolt from their Watt’s the Safeword series on YouTube, but Tyler has quite a porn career of his own.  I chose this particular video because it seems to show off quite a bit of his feet, which I don’t feel I see enough in his other pics.  He usually shows off his very fine ass, which I’m not complaining about… but as a foot guy, I’m always interested in soles.

As a disclaimer, I do not have any sponsorship or affiliation with KinkMen.com (though I may one day look into it), so this is just a personal opinion.  Much of the time, a lot of their videos don’t really appeal to me as much as I’d expect, and I can’t really quite say why.  I think much of the time, they use fairly buff men, and I’m more into twinks.  That said, they do have a variety, and with Tyler (and a few others I’ll review later), I feel I do get my twink count in.

I did find myself enjoying this vid, which has the full titled of “Bank Manager Abducted and Edged to his Limit”.  As you can see, he get footworshiped in the first major kink scene, as well as rimmed and blown.  He moans a lot, which I always enjoy hearing.  He later gets tied on all fours (basically the only two major positions in the entire vid, though he does get tied face up and jerked off with a bit of tickling at the very end, but the scene is much shorter).  More rimming and blowing, but also some foot worship and foot tickling (though that part is fairly quick).  He later gets faced fucked with a dildo on a stick at the same time his penetrated with another dildo on a stick… a very humiliating situation that he moans and slobbers loudly about, which surprisingly got me off even more than seeing his feet.  It’s that humiliation aspect, and I’m a sucker when a slave moans, groans, gags, and slobbers.  And he does all that.

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I did enjoy this vid quite a bit, but surprisingly for me, it was the dildo spitroast (pictured above) that got me off the most.  But if you’d been wanting to see his feet and soles, this vid is the one for you.

 

Kinkmen.com Review:  Dakota Wolf, Bound Whore

Kinkmen.com Review: Dakota Wolf, Bound Whore

This vid features one I hadn’t heard of before, Dakota Wolfe.  This super subby twink (I believe only 19 when the vid was made) didn’t have a lot of vids on the site, but he’s now one of my faves.  Love his super young, innocent look, but he also seems to love being a slave whore.  I only got part 2 of the vid with the title, “Bound whore gang fucked like an animal in a packed bar” (such eloquent names they have, lol), but that’s because it’s where all the foot worship activity happens.  And it’s all right at the beginning.  They make him moo often in a tool of humiliation, which I initially found off putting, but he gets so into it and being degraded, it actually became pretty damn hot.

He worships bare feet and boots for quite a while.  The vid then does move more towards traditional cock sucking and a group scene, and ends with many loads on the constantly moaning slave whore.  He really seemed to enjoy his place, and while I’d like to see more of his own feet, it was just as enjoyable watching this young slut get into worshiping other’s feet and being used.

While the foot worshiping segment is short in proportion to the rest of the video, estimating it at about 10 minutes total, that’s still a pretty decent length.  I know I watch it often!

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TFG Thoughts:  No Face Pic attitudes on Recon

TFG Thoughts: No Face Pic attitudes on Recon

So as you can see based on my TFG’s sub meets, I’ve meet up with a number of guys.  Most of them were because of my Recon profile (under the same name).  And very often, in the course of chatting with a guy on Recon trying to set up a meet, they will often ask for a face pic.

I have it explicitly stated on my profile that I don’t share face pics online.  I have a life situation where if my kinky side were recognized publicly, it could have a very negative impact on me.  A single kinky session is just not worth the risk for me.  If I’m wanting to meet with someone for a scene and they want to see me first, I am willing to meet them in a public location beforehand, or give references of people who have met me.

Some will say that’s a deal breaker.  And I do understand that–I have no issue with people who feel this way.  An in-person session is a very physical thing, and if there’s not a certain physical attraction, they don’t want to waste their time.  Some also view it with a wary eye, as if I have something to hide.  Physically speaking I don’t, and in fact, I’ve been told by multiple people when we met that I’m rather handsome.  (Blush.)  But I choose to keep my kinky side and personal side separate, and that means I can’t show a face pic.  It’s also out out my respect to my husband, who chooses to remain very private as well.

The frustration I do have is this… more than once, I have chatted with someone on Recon.  Often rather extensively.  To the point where we are about to schedule an actual meet.  And that’s when they ask for a face pic.  And when I say I don’t share, they just disappear.  And I think, “Didn’t you read my profile? We could’ve avoided this entire waste of time conversation right away.”

Often I’ll admit, they’re just not reading my profile.  Maybe I just need to make it the number one item in my profile, so it’s more upfront.

But I also think maybe sometimes people may think that after talking a bit, I’ll change my mind.  I can say this… it all the online interactions I’ve had, over Recon, email, twitter, tumblr, text, etc., I have only sent out my face pic 4 times.  And all times, it was to people I had talked to consistently for years before I finally did so (or, in one exception, has an excellent track record and known reputation).  It’s not something I do lightly.

I have noticed it tends to be younger people who have the “Must have a face pic” attitude.  It would figure.  They’re grown up on social media, where everyone shares everything.  It sort of bugs me whey they say “it’s 2017, show your face”.  But most of them also don’t have decades of careers or life partners that would be at risk.  They’re only thinking of themselves in the now, and not the lives of the people around them.  I think most older guys get this.  One day, the young guys will figure it out.

TFG Thoughts:  Time for a new blog look?

TFG Thoughts: Time for a new blog look?

While I do enjoy the look of this blog, there are a few buggy things about it.  The number one problem I have is the fact that comments have never really worked.  That was always a great way to get some quick and easy feedback from readers, and I do miss that.

Plus, the site does have a few bugs on the administrator end, so I feel it may be time for an update.  It probably won’t happen anytime soon, but it is something I’m looking into.

That said, this is primarily a photo-based blog, with each posts containing about 10 pics per post (on average).  Most new templates are more streamlined, and only show the header pic, and make you click that to see the rest.  The trade off is that you can see many, many more posts on your screen at once.  Is that something you, the reader, would like?  Or do you prefer being able to see all the pics in ever post, and just scroll through all of them?  Please let me know you thoughts!

Kinkmen.com Review:  Christian Wilde, Colt Rivers

Kinkmen.com Review: Christian Wilde, Colt Rivers

I’ve always been a big fan of Christian Wilde.  He’s buff, but not too buff.  Masculine, but also very youthful looking, and very sexy eyes.  He’s sort of a blend between muscle and twink that really gets me going.  He subs and Doms, and also loves getting his feet worshiped.  And this video (called “New muscle boy for Mr. Wilde”) shows a lot of foot worship, and his great feet.

Again, I don’t know much about this particular sub, Colt Rivers.  He’s cute, but not quite my type.  Nevertheless, he certainly gets into licking, sucking, and generally being controlled by Christian’s hot feet.  And who wouldn’t?  Lots of great foot shots, and the most foot worship I’ve ever seen in a kinkmen.com vid.

Now, there is just as much that is not foot related.  But the foot content that’s there will still make it worth your while.

Best part?  At the end, Colt shoots his load on top of Christain’s foot, and he makes him lick it up.  Like a good foot whore should.

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TFG Thoughts:  Ghosted

TFG Thoughts: Ghosted

I’ve had many subs flake out on me for meets.  I do understand some people can decide that a connection between two people for a kink meet isn’t there; there are many factors that determine that sort of chemistry.  There has to be some physical attraction, mutual/overlapping interests, and a level of trust.  If any of those are not met, it may not be meant to be.

So I don’t mind if a meet flakes out occasionally.  It happens, especially early on.  But I think it’s a bit different after you’ve had a long discussion with a guy, engaging in multiple messaging back and forth, discussing interests, limits, etc., where it seems to all be going well–then, when the rubber hits the road and I try to schedule an actual meet, they just vanish.  No further response, no reply.  Ghosted is now the term, and it’s happened to me more than once.

That’s more frustrating.  After all, if the other guy wasn’t interested, then why did they waste my time with all those discussions?  Just say right away you’re not interested, or even just stop replying early on.  But to disappear after it all was seemingly going well is very mysterious to me.

What are the reasons for this?  Well, since I never hear back from them, I can only speculate.  But some of my thoughts are:

  • Tech issues.  Probably the modern equivalent to “the dog ate my homework”, but it does genuinely happen at times.  The wifi cuts out, their phone dies or gets lost.  By the time it’s fixed, the conversation is forgotten, or they’re too embarrassed to continue.
  • Impetuous of youth.  They grow bored easily, and their attention span jumps to another pretty profile rather than follow through.  The chase is more thrilling for them than the actual quarry.
  • Intimidation/Change of heart.  Perhaps the promise of kink is more attractive than actually doing it.  Kink is a great idea in the abstract.  They get turned on by pics and vids, but aren’t quite sure how it all works in real life, and get cold feet.
  • Real life intrudes.  Fear of being discovered by non-kinky friends/family, or perhaps something genuine does come up in their real life that’s more pressing.  Not to mention traveling for work or a vacation.  One guy I chatted with ghosted me, and then after a long period began chatting again without any sort of explanation.  I was a bit snippy at first, as I was cynical, until he said that his sister had become seriously ill.  Fair enough.

 

Interestingly enough, I had an enlightening experience.  Many years ago, I was began talking to cute young guy on Recon also into feet and bondage.  We chatted for a bit, even doing a (rare, for me) phone call.  We seemed to basically hit it off as far as I could tell, though he was more into clean feet, and a bit more leaning towards Domming.  But then he disappeared.  I’d see him visit my profile on occasion, and I’d even write him, but just no response.  This went on for a while until I basically gave up… though I’d still cruise or message him every once in a while.

To my surprise, he finally cruised me back.  And this time when I wrote him, he replied.  I had an uncharacteristic day free, and wondered if he’d want to meet up.  Admittedly that was quick and I knew it, but it was enough to get the ball rolling, and we texted for quite a while all day.  And without any prompting from me, he straight up apologized for “ghosting” (his word, quite coincidental, as I had begun writing this post before he said it) me.  His reasoning?  He didn’t want me to quote his texts, so I have to paraphrase. 

But it was a few things… first, he was a bit nervous to meet me.  (Note to all… I’m very easy to get along with.  I’m only mean when Doming during a session at the slave’s request, lol.)  Also, he admitted he was young when we first talked, and he wanted to improve his own rope skills more first, and gain a few more kinky friends for his own sense of security.  He also said he felt we were a bit at odds in interest, as I liked smelly feet and he liked clean (Note to all again… I can make my feet clean.  There may still be a slight odor, but I can minimize it quite a bit.)  Lastly, he said he had a couple of meets that were “off putting”, which I took to mean didn’t go well.  So a combination of all those made him hide from me, though still poke his head up once in a while to check me out.

I did appreciate his apology, and it was insightful for me.  In a way, none of my reasons that I listed above were correct.  But it still makes sense.  I am happy to report that while I didn’t end up meeting with this guy, we are are good terms, and do hope to connect for a real life meet in the future when our schedules coincide.  Although he’s a bit pic shy, so I may just have to tell you about it later.

What other reasons can you think of?  Or have you ever been the person who ghosted?  If so, why?  I won’t judge you, but I’d just be curious to know.  Contact me!

UPDATE:  The NoSafeWord podcast recently talked about this same topic.  Listen to their thoughts on the matter here (Episode #210).