It’s been a while, but recently a couple of straight guys have communicated with me. First, I got this email (posted with permission):
TFG,
I’m preoccupied with bondage. I want to try it and I think about it a lot. I have enjoyed much of your site for offering me a glimpse of it.
I tried to Google the names listed on some of the Hogtie images in your blog. I was hoping to reach out to them to see if they would tie me. Each page I viewed as a search result showed me that much more than bondage occurs. I’m hoping to find a really skilled rope tying aficionado that just wants to tie a guy non-sexually. (Unless he would just like the satisfaction of artfully tying a guy, or if he would find a way to find it to be a good use of his time- practicing knots, maybe making up something we can agree on, honestly this is the toughest part of it all!)
I want to be tied firmly, tightly, inescapably for 30minutes or longer in each position I think. I’d like to be gagged so effectively that I can barely make a noise. Of course blindfolded. I’d enjoy trying multiple positions and I’m fine to wear almost nothing or be fully dressed.
I would be comfortable being tied on a balcony, in a backyard, living room, garage, tent, bondage store -that’s not needing me to buy gear- or wherever. I don’t need privacy because I don’t want anything beyond the restraints. I’d work as a member of a group being tied or be tied by a group of guys. I’m not really interested in being photographed, though I’m very curious what I looked like versus how it felt.
Re-reading this I feel very self absorbed and assuming, please read past that – and tell me how you think I am coming across. I’m spoke this way to be as focused as possible with you – assuming you’re The expert and that you are Very busy!
Based on what I’ve seen on the web I’m an anomaly and I don’t that this is an itch I’ll get to scratch. Thank you for reading this, I hope it has not been a waste of your time. Maybe you know of someone to share this with, if you forward this on to anybody please let them know that I find most aspects of bondage fascinating, but no aspects of male on male sex even remotely interesting. I will respect them even if they don’t respect me, but the more common ground we share in respecting each others preferences the better for each of us. (that’s my wordy way of saying I don’t want to give my consent to be hogtied in gym shorts and find myself naked, spread eagle and in chastity- with my lack of experience I have no idea how things could end up.)
I did write him back, and we’re seeing what can be worked out. It can be tricky, because my schedule is busy, and this guy is about 90 minutes away from me. So while I hope it pans out, it’s tough to say. But at the very least, he didn’t mind me sharing his email to help out other straight guys and make them feel less alone. Believe me, this does seem to come fairly often.
On another note, I had this fun text exchange with a surprise at the end. Again, I had permission to post as long as I didn’t use his screen name. I first asked him to show me his chest:
