I’m not sure if I’m unusual or not, but when I Dom, I really enjoy kissing. It’s even listed on my Recon profile. That said, I always check with the sub to see if it’s okay with them. And maybe surprisingly, about 2/3 of the time, they’d rather not.
Part of me does find it a bit ironic that one would be willing to strip, be tied, gagged, teased, and perhaps edged… but kissing is drawing a line. But after some thought, it does make some sense. Kissing is a different sort of intimacy, often implying more of a romantic connection. While the sub may only be looking for the immediate experience.
There’s nothing wrong with that, but it does make me wonder how often other Doms want to kiss. I seem to get a sense not all that many. But the few subs I have met that enjoy kissing during a scene really enjoy kissing during a scene. A few even need it as an integral part of a scene, perhaps to put them in a safe space. To be given assurance that while, yes, I have you tied up and at my mercy, I’m going to take care of you. And to me, that makes it even hotter.
It may not be for everyone, but if you allow it, it may make a scene even sexier. Assuming all parties consent, give it a try!
