It certainly hasn’t been an easy time for many. I know that (outside of my husband), I haven’t had any scene at all since February. Typically, I’d have one every month or so.
But I have been very responsible during this time, and not met with anyone else. Not only is the risk too great, but I’d also likely be passing it along to my husband since we live in the same house, and that isn’t fair to him.
I am fortunate that I am married and we live together, so we can at least have sex/scenes with each other. But I do miss the interaction with other guys, and expressing more of my Dom side. My husband is not into verbal, and I’m discovering I am, and I do miss being able to express that side of myself as much.
But I always try to find the positive side, and this time does allow me to think up new scenarios, shop around for new gear (in fact, I’m nearly done on a very long DIY bondage project that I’m preparing to share here). Always wanted to try lycra or rubber? Now may be the time to do so. Get some new gear and break it in.
This would also be a good time to explore edging alone. Try the free site Jrk-it (which does require resgistration) to play with your masturbation and edging. It allows you set explore with different rhythms and patterns to your stroking. The site edgemeplease is similar, and does not require any registration.
This could also be a good time to try hypno. I had a page on it before here, but explore a few videos on your own. I must say, it turned out to be hotter than I imagined.
Practice some of your ropework and bondage skills, or safely play with some self-bondage. This site is how I learned how to make a chest harness (sorry the illustration is female, but the directions are good). It’s something you can pretty easily do on yourself. You may be surprised at how easy it is, you just need a very long rope!
If you don’t mind a bit of clean up, it could also be a good time to explore gunge play. Get in the tub with a bowl full of instant mashed potatoes, cake batter, chocolate syrup, whipped cream, yogurt, and various sauces. Surprisingly, many of those clean up relatively quickly. You can also try baked beans, peanut butter, and actual “gunge”, natrosol (which typically needs to be ordered online). Avoid eggs, flour, and anything that can irritate the eyes. I will say, putting my feet in a large vat of yogurt was pretty damn sexy. Pro tip–make sure it’s room temperature.
If you have a safe space to do so, try some outdoor play. Jerk off while alone in a forest, park, beach, or some other semi-public space (again, use common sense and judgement–be respectful of others).
Also take this time to get to know your own body and explore. Try new butt plugs, dildos, vibrators, piss on yourself, lock yourself up, etc. The site Jerk World has lots of interesting ideas to spice up your masturbation. I still have pretty vivid memories of the time I used, at their suggestion, a banana peel. Sure, it reeked of bananas as I jerked off, but it felt great and had a super hot gloopy, sucking sound to it as I did it that really turned me on.
Have fun!
