Saw this on social (credit is listed at the bottom of the pic–BoundRope), and felt it was worth sharing.
It should speak for itself, but it’s a good reminder that what you see in a sexy pic or video is just a brief snippet of what should be happening during a scene.
When I connect with someone I may do a scene with, I generally send many messages to feel out their limits, their fantasies, their experience level, and their limits. And once we do meet in person, we talk a bit just socially, and reemphasize everything we had previously discussed, as well as set up safety words. I want them to be comfortable, especially if it is someone new to the scene. Even if they are more experienced, I like to hear about what sort of things they’ve done before, so I can get a sense of what they like and/or can take.
Sometimes during the scene, in-between moments, I’ll do a quick check in to make sure all is well with the sub. And once the scene is over, I usually ask them what they liked and didn’t like (and if I’ve taken pictures, I’ll share them with the sub immediately, so they get a sense of what pics I took).
Those moments of communication don’t usually make it into the sexy parts of kink media, but they are necessary and needed. And just because they aren’t seen doesn’t mean they are any less important.
