The boy’s Bill of Rights, & FAGGOT follow up

I’ve seen this around before.  I have to admit, I’m not sure of it’s origins.  If anyone can enlighten me, please do!  But I think it’s a good way to remind ourselves to play safe.

The boys’ Bill of Rights:
1. Every boy has the right to have his body, intellect, and emotions protected by his Dom.
2. Every boy has the right to choose the man whom he serves and to discontinue that service and take his leave without being subjected to physical, mental, or emotional abuse.
3. Every boy has the right to be cared for, disciplined appropriately, and allowed to feel pride in his submission.
4. Every boy has the right to protected sex if he so wishes.
5. Every boy has the right to privacy if he so wishes. No boy can be blackmailed, publicly humiliated, or physically coerced into service without his expressed desire to be so.
6. Every boy has the right to defend himself from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse.
7. Every boy has the right to consent or not to consent to sexual activities.
8. Every boy has the right to seek refuge, counsel, and advice from other subs and Doms without the expectation of sex, money, or any other service in return.
9. Every boy has the right to a physically and emotionally available circle of friends.
10. Every boy has the right to protect his own possessions and finances against intercession, theft, and non-consensual acquisition.

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So I’ve been out of town for quite a while, and have a lot to catch up on.  But first off, thanks to those who have stated their thoughts about the FAGGOT post, whether you commented, emailed, or twittered me.  I feel it’s a topic that’s not really as discussed in the kink world as perhaps it should be, especially when hearing some of your strong opinions on it vs. the seemingly unquestioned use of it throughout (to me it seems to be mostly) tumblr.  Some of your brought up some great points.  Some didn’t agree with me, and that’s great too!  Everyone has to have their own opinions, and we all need to listen and hear other points of view.  It was interesting to hear what people had to say.

I agree with The SneakerBoy when he said, “…eventually the one saying it and the one receiving it will either embrace it to the point where it creates a functional change in the relationship (or it will become meaningless to say anyway)”.  Adding to that, I think I find that writing it in a consensual text, email, blog, post, tumblr, etc., is a bit different than scrawling it across a person’s home in an act of vandalism, or when being called that verbally to one’s face as a taunt/attack.  As George Carlin once said, it’s all about context. 

I also think beltedboy had a great point:


“I see these blogs and posts all over Tumblr all the time, and invariably when ‘fag’ and ‘faggot’ are used it is to explicitly link being gay with being worthless, un-manly and the like, in contrast to so called ‘real men’ who are usually depicted as being superior in their straightness.

I get that it can be hot to be demeaned and called names, but I think constantly being told that to be a fag is to be a piece of sh*t can chip away at the feeling of security and pride in our sexuality that it took a lot of us years to build up, and helps reinforce the homophobic crap that’s still out there. There’s also enough prejudice within the community against guys who are ‘too camp/gay-acting’ as it is, and I think a lot of the kink related fag talk could strengthen that too.”

A number of you disagreed with me that it could be empowering.  After some thought, I think that’s pretty fair.  I suppose I was really just searching for a reason for it to be so prevalent all the sudden–which, I admit, I’m still at a loss to explain.  Frankly, I’m a bit surprised (but I think in a good way) at how many of you don’t care for the word, even within roleplay.  Yet simultaneously, it’s getting more widespread.  I can only guess what sort of impact this will ultimately have on the kink community, and perhaps as The SneakerBoy suspects, it may ultimately create a bit of a divide.  To me, the ramifications are difficult to predict.  I think we need to keep an eye on this phenomenon…

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