So my BF and I recently had physicals after switching doctors. And we were both independently told that we each have larger than normal prostates. This may answer something that may surprise many gay men–we don’t care for anal sex.
In light of our doctor’s revelation, this may not be that surprising… a larger prostate makes anal sex uncomfortable. But many of you may be surprised to know that my partner and I, in a nearly 5 year relationship, have never had anal sex, nor are we even interested in it.
That said, I have played a bit with anal–basically, light fingering (by myself, not my partner), and small buttplugs. By the way, do you have any idea how difficult it was to find a small buttplug? They nearly don’t exist! I do like it at times, but it’s pretty rare, and I really have to be in the mood for it for it to be enjoyable. And even then, the plug can’t stay in too long. I also can’t deny that I do get turned on by the thought (and pictures) of a foot/toes wriggling in my ass–although I think it’d be even hotter to be a top in that situation.
But more often than not, it’s just not something on our agenda. Our sex is mostly bondage, feet, lycra, oral and/or jerk off. With a lot of teasing, CBT, TT, etc. thrown in. But we’re quite happy with that, and we don’t feel like we’re missing out!
In a related story, many of you know that we own a bondage bed. Well, we customized it with extra hooks, but that was about it. When we put in the final order, they guy asked us, “Are you sure you don’t want the sling extenders?” This was an extra charge, and we said no. He asked us again if we were sure, and we said yes, wondering why he was being so insistent. It seems we were the first couple he could remember that ordered the bed without the sling extenders. Hmmmmm.
At first, I thought we were an exception. But a long time ago, there was a thread on the old Dreamcaps message board (now gone, but reborn again as JustADream), where lots of guys started confessing that they weren’t into it either. And I’ve recently seen some GearFetish and Recon profiles stating similar. It’s especially surprising given that pornographic images nearly always seem to culminate with it, as if it’s a given. When I watched porn, I almost never made it to the end, because the anal stuff bored me.
So now I’m curious. With the new year here, it’s time to confess. Are you interested in anal sex, or not? I’m going to guess it will, indeed, be a minority… but I’m also thinking that we may be surprised at how many aren’t into it.
