This was floating around on BlueSky, but rather than answer them individually, I thought I’d answer them here! Well, the first fourteen now… the rest later. 🙂
1. On the spectrum from submissive to dominant how do you currently define yourself?
At this point in my life, I’m maybe 60% Dom, 40% sub. But I only sub for people I really know and trust, so I don’t do that as often, outside of my husband. So that’s why you see me Dom so much more.
2. Do any people from your everyday life know about your kinky side?
Aside from one former sub who has now become a “real life” friend, no.
3. Do you consider any pieces of media formative to your kink identity?
Since I grew up in the late 70s, the old Batman TV show really turned me on (which aired in reruns at that point). That’s why Robin bondage is still a turn on for me today.
Also, the cover of the Hardy Boys book While the Clock Ticked is quite the classic for me.
4. Rubber/leather/lycra/sportswear/other?
Lycra, singlets, and hero gear. Sportswear and rubber is also hot, but I don’t own any. No place to store the sports gear, and I’m too lazy (and cheap, haha) to put all the time and care required for rubber.
5. How many dildos/butt plugs/anal insertables do you currently own?
I’m not really into anal. I do have a one firm dildo, two butt plugs, and one soft dildo that’s more for throat training. I do also have two vibrating butt plugs. But it’s fairly rare I use any of it.
6. Describe your feelings about being fucked/your bottoming journey
Not into being fucked, and honestly… it’s never happened. But see above answer, anal is not a big priority for me.
7. Excluding dildos, talk about the first kinky toy you owned
If we go really far back, it would very, very cheap toy steel handcuffs that I got when I was still in school. I’m not really sure if I remember my first exact piece of “real” gear, but it was likely leather restraints and a ball gag. I also had a Spiderman action figure/doll, and I would regularly tie that up, sometimes even on my own hard cock.
8. What is the most explicit thing you have ever posted about online which shows your face?
Don’t like to show my face (or dick, for that matter) online
9. Do you have any designated spaces/furniture set up for your kinks?
Our bed is a dungen bed, so that’s pretty obvious.
10. If you have a hot historic photo of yourself that hasn’t made it to Bluesky yet, this is your motivation to post it
I don’t know, I’m pretty open about posting hot pics. But I’d say these are my faves of myself.
11. Have you ever written erotic fiction, and are you willing to share?
Way, way back when I was in high school/college, and it was pretty dang amateur, mostly about guys I had crushes on. I don’t even think the stories had explicit sex in them, but they did involve stripping them, their feet, bondage, and in one case, gunge (with a pool of vaseline… I didn’t really have any other references then, lol)
12. Have you ever drawn or commissioned kinky art to satisfy your own fetishes, and are you willing to share?
Not much of an artist in that capacity, nor have I requested any work. But I do always appreciate pics of Spiderman or Robin tied up and barefoot.
13. Excluding medical reasons, what is the you’ve gone without having an orgasm since puberty?
This is a great question, and I’m not exactly sure. I don’t do a lot of chastity play, nor self-restraint (in this capacity, anyway, haha). Maybe a week? Even in my 50’s, left to my own devices, I tend to jerk off about once a day. But I do believe I have locked up a couple of times and waited about a week. Interestingly, once I did cum, the load wasn’t especially bigger than my usual load.
14. Do you have a close friend that you fantasize about, who doesn’t know? If so, is there something specific involved?
Not at this point… most of my non-kinky friends are female, haha
I’ll finish up the questions next week!
