All good things must end sometime

This has been musing in the back of my mind for a while. I’ve been doing this blog for nearly 20 years. And while it’s mostly been a lot of fun, it may be time to consider winding it down.

The impetus for this is someone wanting me to remove some of their pic from here. That’s not a big deal to me by itself… while I never intend to steal content, sometimes a pic I find may have been taken from somewhere else, and not meant to be posted. It’s rare, but when it does happen, I’m always happy to remove content when requested.

One difference with this person is that while I’ve replied multiple times, he followed up as if I ignored him (maybe my replies are going to his spam folder?). And while he said I had to remove his content, he did not identify which pics or posts he’s referring to. The email was a fairly generic one (something like “joe-1234@email.com”), so I can’t tie it to any sort of particular tag or account. So I feel as if I’m in a bit of bind until he replies and/or clarifies.

But that’s not the main reason. When I first began this blog in 2005, it was mainly because at the time, there wasn’t much male bondage and feet content out there. There was also no social media available for kink at all. This blog actually started as website where I showed pics of my own feet, and later evolved into my feet, my bondage work, and sharing pics of things I found sexy.

Well, fast forward to the present… social media is strong, and there are plenty of outlets for people to express kink, and lots of ways to connect with other kinksters. It’s certainly not nearly as difficult to find as before, even if you have very niche interests. Nowadays, feet and bondage are practically mainstream… which isn’t necessarily a bad thing, in my opinion!

Another big issue that’s been coming up more and more lately is copyright issues. While I never intend to infringe on that sort of thing, if you get accused of it, it’s not fun. I had one very large scare a few years ago where I had a company saying I posted a paparazzi pic of a celeb and wanted me to pay them an exorbitant amount of money for a single pic that was well over 10 years old at the time. While it was eventually resolved as a misunderstanding, it was a bit frightening and anxiety inducing (and why I don’t post any celeb content here anymore). Nothing on that scale has happened again, but there have been other minor issues, and I’m starting to wonder if it’s worth the risk.

Add to that that I make no money from this. In fact, I usually have to pay about $600-ish a year to keep this site (as well as my sister site, capturedheroesblog.com) live between domain names, security, hosting, etc. Which I haven’t minded because I enjoyed giving back to the kink community. But when you factor that into all the other issues I already mentioned, as well as the time it takes to curate, plans, set up posts… and you’ve been doing it as long as I have, you realize this can’t go on indefinitely. The time is starting to feel right for me. It does make me sad, but there is also a part of me that is ready to let this go.

Along those lines, I have to confess that I’ve also had less and less time (and motivation) to create my own original content. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had a blast with every guy I’ve had the opportunity to meet up with. But to do most of those meets, I have to really force them into my schedule, then usually pay for a hotel room to boot (as I can’t host at home, since my husband works from home). Those costs also really add up, and after doing so many, at this stage in my life, they’re just not as much of a priority for me now. Yes, I’ll likely still do them from time to time… but it’s definitely taken a back seat.

So what’s next? Where will you be able to find me?

I’m not really sure when I’ll shut this down. If think if I had it my way, I’d like to keep it going for maybe another 8-12 months. But if I can’t resolve the situation with the person who wants me to take down their content and is not replying to my emails, it could be a lot sooner… like maybe a week or two, or a month.

In terms of social media, I’m most active on Bluesky, so follow me there. While the audience is smaller, the kink community there is nearly as active as it is on twitter, with many more higher quality accounts and a lot fewer cash master types.

I do have a Twitter (I refuse to call it Elon’s stupid name) that I rarely use because I really despise what that place has turned into as a whole–not to mention the fact that it could be banned in many countries due to their inane AI crap. But if I did have a major announcement of some kind, I would likely post about it there as well, so if that’s all you have, give me a follow there anyway… just know I won’t post there much.

And I do currently have a Recon profile, but as I said, I’m not really focusing on meeting people right now. I’m not on any of the other apps, because let’s not forget, I am actually happily married, so while meeting and chatting with a lot of kink people is nice, but not my #1 priority.

When the times comes to shut it down, I am hoping to retain the domain name. So keep in bookmarked, because I’d hope to have it point elsewhere once the time comes for me to shut this blog down. When I do have things to post (mostly either my own thoughts, reviews, or any kink scenes I happen to have), I’m actually considering going back to tumblr. I have one currently, and don’t do much there right now other than follow and repost, but if I shut this down, I’d likely be a lot more active there again.

I do know you can’t post explicit sexual content there (no genitals or explicit sex acts), but they are fine with non-nude bondage… and really, the of majority of my own original content does fall into that category, so it would be fine. And you can have domain names point to tumblr. When I did have more explicit content to share, I’d likely use Bluesky. That said, if you readers have any other ideas or thoughts, please share. I am aware of bdsmlr, but I haven’t used it, and am not even really sure if anyone is active much on it anymore (and it did say registration was temporarily closed).

Not sure when the time close this blog is going to come exactly, next week or next year, but I will say right now that I am so appreciative and thankful for all of you who supported and enjoyed this blog all these years. It’s allowed me to realize new kinks, and chat and meet with so many amazing people. One of them is now my gay kinky best friend (outside of my own husband, of course).

And I don’t plan on totally disappearing, so I’ll still be around… just on a smaller scale. Which I’m okay with. In the meantime, enjoy it while the blog is still here. When I started this, I’ve never expected much to come of it, but I have been amazed at what’s happened to me because of it. I made a mark in my own way and on my own journey, and I hope yours, too.

Enjoy some of my favorite pics of myself in bondage, including some of the very first kink pics I posted of myself back in 2003… so technically, this site is already 20 years old, lol (2005 is when I started posting more regularly, though).