(UPDATE below)
So I’ve talked about this before (initially here and a follow up here), and after some time, I think I’ve now realized that I sort of enjoy calling slaves faggots.
I’ve actually been talking with my favorite (cyber) slave, SBS_justin, for a long time now. And he totally gets off on humiliation of any form. And calling him faggot is something we both get turned on by. To be honest, I wasn’t comfortable saying it right away. It took me a while. But after a lot of other verbal domination, and getting to know him over an extended period, it just seemed time. I was actually a bit nervous the first time I called him that, even though it was just a cyber session. But I relaxed almost instantly, because I saw how much it puts him in a total submissive slave space. And he totally gets off on it–don’t you, fag?
That said, it’s obviously got to be in the context of a scene, and it would have to be mutually agreed upon by all parties that the term was acceptable. To me, if I’m writing about it here or talking with someone who’s interested in slaving, then it is meant as a verbal tool of humiliation. Much like bitch, slave, whore, boi, etc. Name calling and verbal domination is something I find quite sexy if the other players are in on it, and I have to admit that I do get off on it a bit if I know they do.
That said, I know it’s not for everybody, so I’ll try not to use it often. But you will see the term here from time to time in a derogatory, but intended as consensual, manner. If it does offend you, I can actually understand and respect that. But there is enough of a kink population that does enjoy it (I mean, holy cow, look at the names of some of those kinky tumblrs–some of them shock even me) for me to use it on occasion.
UPDATE: Apparently, the blog is having trouble allowing comments right now, but reader B. H. emailed me to say, “This is an interesting one. The gay activist in me hates the word, but in sexual situations as a slave, it is a turn on for me, almost like being dominated by a straight guy. I must confess to loving the online masters who make vids calling their slaves faggots.”
As far as getting comments and replies, I will look into it. I was getting a lot of spam, so I enabled some filters, but it seems they may be too good and were blocking out real comments.
